Something happened that made me realize what a waste of time it is to chase paths that are not meant for us. I took ample time out of my day to spend time with this person, drew up paperwork for them which also takes time and they promised me they would get back to me right away. Well it’s been a week and nada. The entire situation really got under my skin and normally this stuff is all apart of my business, but this one I just couldn’t shake. It got to the point where my family was like, G, get over it already! I took the weekend to think about it and I realized why it bothered me so much. Maybe the path I had chosen years ago wasn’t meant for me anymore. Realizing that something you’ve been pouring your heart and soul into for the last 10-years might not be the right path now, is frustrating and enlightening.
I met someone at a dinner recently who told me that she never quit any of her business ventures, but that they naturally evolved into something else. And maybe that is what’s happening with my venture. Perhaps it’s time to close those doors to see what new ones will open. I firmly believe in the Universe and it’s timing and I have to believe that there is a deeper, greater reason that my other path doesn’t seem to be the path fit for me anymore.
It’s sort of like if you have a friendship and you’ve been putting all of the energy and work into the friendship and the reciprocation just isn’t there. It’s like the Natalie Cole song, if there is no love left at the table then it’s time to leave. My therapist was actually the one who made me realize how draining the friendship was on me. She also stressed that maybe I just didn’t like the friend as much as I thought I had. And you know what? That realization was paramount to my mental health. I told my friend I needed more and that this wasn’t the right fit and I haven’t looked back since. In fact, my life has been lighter and happier since parting ways. It certainly doesn’t mean I wish any ill will on that person. They will always have a place in my heart, but not in my life because we are meant for different paths and that’s okay!
We compound ourselves with the stress and guilt surrounding ending things, but sometimes it can be the best decision we can make for our life. There is always a very uncomfortable aspect to saying no or being upfront with people about what you need, but once you do you begin to make small, unconscious changes that you may not see at the time, but overtime they begin to make a huge impact. Everything becomes more meaningful and you realize you don’t have to make up a story or give someone an excuse. You can just simply say no, I’m not interested. It’s easier in the long run to say no and to state what you need. Think of the positive, long-term affects of this.
You’ll see that you’ll begin to create a ripple effect in your life and things won’t see so personal. And what difference does it make if they are personal? Not everything is for everyone. There seems to be this stigma on social media that just because it works for someone else it automatically means it will work for you and that’s simply not the case. Everyone is different and we need to respect each other’s differences and boundaries. And remember, that anyone who doesn’t respect your boundaries is no longer a dragon worth chasing.
There are some helpful tools that we can reach for in times of self-doubt and wondering if we are on the right path. Meditate. Meditation can be very helpful when it comes to making tough decisions. Having daily mantras can also be helpful. Having a mantra that you repeat daily can help build your self-confidence when it comes to making difficult decisions. Sticking to the plan. Seeking out the entire plan once you’ve made the tough decision can help keep you from going back on your word and on yourself.
When we want something so badly we are inherently pushing it away and telling the universe it isn’t meant for us. The same thing happens when we chase people and paths not meant for us. Stop chasing the dragons that aren’t mean for you and start pursuing the paths that are. Only you will know the difference.